Unseen Wounds
Not all Trauma is from War or natural disaster, the trauma experienced can be emotional, violent, sexual abuse, ACES which are adverse childhood experiences or even narcissism, also known as little T’s. But realistically no matter the trauma itself, how it impacts you is traumatic non the less, especially if repeated, which creates PTSD and CPTSD.
"I don’t have any specific trauma. I've never been in a car accident and I wasn't bullied when I was little. So then why am I suffering so much on the inside? Why do I feel like the light on the inside is dim? Why do I have a hard time trusting myself and letting others come close?"
This confusion exists in many clients who reach out and are brave enough to ask for help and begin therapy. This confusion is a representation of how many humans still may not fully understand the concept of trauma.
The Definition of Trauma
The world is still unaware of the impact Trauma can have on a person, and how each persons absorption of the events with vary.
By absorption what Alison means is, not everyone will experience the SAME traumatic event, in the SAME way.
The world lacks vital information about what trauma really is and is not.
Yet, more and more with awareness, research, science and data studies, the world is opening up to a greater understanding of what the word means and is collectively cultivating compassion for the varying degrees of the impact on an individual.
“The word trauma comes from the Greek trauma (τραύμα) meaning trauma wound, alteration of trōma; akin to Greek titrōskein = to wound, tetrainein = to pierce”
The word “trauma” often sends a shiver down peoples' spines when hearing someone’s story.
TRAUMA can occur when:
There is too much too soon
There is too much for too long
There is not enough for too long
Power and agency have been taken away from the person or collective
The stressors outweigh the resources available to navigate them
When our primal protective instincts, intuitions, and responses are thwarted
There is not enough time, space, or permission to heal
It is essential as a practitioner, supporting clients, that social, developmental, and cultural factors are considered when reflecting on a client’s trauma history.
What flashes through most minds, are perhaps images that bring fear, confusion and darkness, leading to denial or avoidance of discussing the topic.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, better known as the DSM (now in its 5th edition), is a manual used by mental health practitioners to diagnose behavioural conditions defines trauma as:
exposure to actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence in one (or more) of the following ways: directly experiencing the traumatic event(s);
*witnessing, in person, the traumatic event(s) as it occurred to others;
*learning that the traumatic event(s) occurred to a close family member or close friend (in case of actual or threatened death of a family member or friend, the event(s)
*must have been violent or accidental); or experiencing repeated or extreme exposure to aversive details of the traumatic event(s).
The DSM-V has done a good job expanding its breadth of the diagnosis to include vicarious exposure, however, there are some major limitations to the definition because one does not need to experience actual or threatened death, sexual violence or serious injury to perceive and experience an event as traumatic.
That is why the term "psychological trauma" has been used in more recent years to define any kind of experience where one has felt they were in danger, physically or emotionally, leaving lasting negative effects on the individuals mental, physical, social or emotional wellbeing, even financial wellbeing. (SAMSHA 2012).
When discussing psychological trauma, it is important to clarify the two different kinds of childhood trauma (ACES).
The trauma of Acts of Commission, leaves the person feeling terrified and helpless in the face of fear. These include verbal, physical or sexual abuse that causes harm or even poses a threat to harm.
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"Your trauma, wound or loss is defined by how your mind, body and psyche experienced it. No two people will experience the same traumatic event and have the same feelings or emotions of it, it varies because we are all unique.
The specifics of the situation are irrelevant. There is no hierarchy of pain. Every traumatic experience is legitimate".
If you've been struggling and thought that you have no "reason", please be kind to yourself and send some gentle care to the spots inside that are needing warmth and compassion. You may be a trauma survivor. One who has valid reasons to be hurting. One who can also choose to begin to feel, heal, and empower yourself as you take necessary steps towards inner strength.
You can learn to feel comfortable in your own skin. And you most definitely deserve to, and your Enriched life is available for you.
If you are ready to take a step towards healing, Alison is here for you as a Trauma Informed Coach to support you tend to and heal the unseen and hidden wounds you carry, and help you grow into the woman you’re able to fully be.
Reach out to schedule your initial consultation with Alison to begin introducing tools to support your healing journey.